potty training boys

Here is the original message i sent to you….

it is the beginning of the 4th day. yesterday morning i thought i was going to loose my mind. i felt like we were going backwards instead of forwards. so many accidents and so much frustration. i think in part i am a working mom, and i was at the point i was sick and tired of being in a house for three days looking at his penis all day. we did everything imaginable, baked a cake, play dough, arts and crafts, music and dance time, reading, swinging and outside play, trains, cars etc….i don’t know how all you stay at home moms do it. i told my girlfriend, my 150 $ a week in daycare is a good investment. i think i would be on xanax if not! LOL. my hats off to you!

in the afternoon my husband stayed with him while i got out and ran some errands. and i got a phone call that he pooped on the potty and hasn’t had an accident since. he woke up dry from his nap and this morning as well. so far so good this morning. he went to the potty twice already no accidents. after i felt like we had a breakthrough with the poop i felt relieved and started enjoying things. i had to change my way of thinking. i have never seen my kid so happy and so proud of himself. we even went out to dinner last night with no problems.

so what should i expect from here on out? i know that he will still have accidents somewhat. now that it has clicked, how long do i keep following this method until he initiates going to the bathroom on his own? do i continue to keep waking him up 1 hour after bedtime to take him to the potty, and how long do i do that for?

any suggestions for dealing with him while out and about for the day? what do i do if he starts grabbing himself and i have no potty to get to in time? how long before he actually tells me verbally that he has to go? as you can imagine while in a store or visiting with friends you get wrapped up in conversation and not watching him every second of the day. so it would be hard to catch him if he is only giving physical (grabbing) signs. what do i do in these cases?

again, thank you for your support and advise, although thru this process i thought at some point the white coats were going to come and carry me away. LOL

potty training is almost as bad as having an infant sucking on boobs every two hours and getting no sleep! LOL

thanks again!
Shawnee

p.s. i would like to add since you have been gone, it is now the end of day 5. i woke up this morning to the sounds of keagan’s potty chair playing music. i looked and he was in the bathroom with his pants around his ankle going to the potty. i can’t believe it! we had to take an hour trip one way to my husbands grandfather’s house for father’s day. he waited until we got there and pee’d in the potty. we have been accident free today! we are headed back to daycare tomorrow and i am less apprehensive then i was a couple of days ago. his is like this strong little boy with so much confidence now. it is amazing to watch! i think he will do fine, but i still am worried about her putting him in pull ups. thru this whole process i have only had to change his sheets twice. it was the best investment i have ever made. thank you.

We are having wonderful success with your program. It “clicked” with our 2 1/2 year old son by the end of the first day, much to our amazement as the only form of potty training before this was begging him to tell us when he need to go and in return getting a firm “NO”. This has not felt stressful at all (except for the initial 10\12 hrs when I was still unsure). We had a great second day, dry pants every time but one, and then only a little dribble on the way to the potty. He has made it through naps and both nights completely dry as well. He even went on demand before bedtime last night. I am so thrilled with this instant progress.

But now I have a couple of concerns; first off, we are at the start of the third day and he has not yet had a bowel movement even though he has eaten well. Would there be anything else you could suggest? I know he understands the concept as we had a couple false alarms where he only passed gas once he is on the toliet. Secondly, when he wakes up dry from nap and overnight, he still is waiting an hour to hour and a half before he is ready to go. If you have any additional tips to offer, I am willing to listen and try!

My son loves feeling like a big boy and bragging to Grand parents and others that he doesn’t need diapers any more. I can’t thank you enough for your wonderful advice you have written what should be common sense, but what we overlook as parents when we are too close to the matter. I will be referring my family and friends to you program as well!!!

Thank you,
Laura, Ron and big boy Cameron

Thanks.

No reply needed to this…I realize you are busy.

But one little story for you–

After 5 days of wearing real undies (2 days after 3 Day Potty Training)…a dear friend who had her 2nd baby, 8 years after her first–wanted to see us before she had to go back to work. She lives 1.5 hours away.

Was dying to see the new baby and her! So off we went on our first road trip and not in diapers!

I keep a spare pair of everthing in the car….tee-shirt, pants/shorts, undershirt and underwear.

So for our road trip I was covered–but grabbed an old gatorade bottle.

Figured he would have to potty on the roadtrip. Can you guess….my first child. Some other moms I knew had some porta potty in their car–they have girls. I explained to my son–your words–you are in charge. It’s your body, you have to let me know when you have to potty. OK? He said OK.

So off we go…(I admit, I did not give him much to drink before we left, so that we could make decent time)….about 30 minutes into the trip he informs me he has to go. So I immediately pulled way over off the side of the interstate….nice flat area….way off the burm–jumped out, ran around to his side of the car–got him out and it dawned on me right then and there!

Hey, he’s a boy, why did I bring a plastic bottle?!? Helped him get his pants down and said aim for the grass big guy! Did our best to make sure the wind was at our back–He was awesome and enjoyed it–and everytime he said he had to go, he did–so not completely taken with doing it outdoors–thank goodness! I think this is when he mastered the whole standing up to pee and enjoying it! So take a road trip–vs. some plastic Peter Potty!

Also to let you know….in our 2 months since using your method and book–he has only had 2 accidents –one at pre-school and one in the park after having to go but saw condition of potty in park….I offered him the opportunity to go around the back of building, but he said no, it was okay…but he had to have a BM–got bothered by condition of potty–few minutes later, had his BM–so grateful for the back up clothes & told him these things happen, no big deal…etc. –but no set backs what-so-ever.

Again, best $24-25 I spent.

Thanks & smiles right back at ya!
Adele

Dear Lora,

Buying your e-book was the best thing that ever happened to me and my son. My son was 2 1/2 and not close to going on the potty. I was so frustrated and discouraged. So many parents with their words of “expertise”. Boys never get potty trained before they are 3. I was not going to accept that. My son is a smart boy and knows when he needed to go. I got him up early on a Saturday and he was completely potty trained with no accidents by Sunday night. Thank you so much. The book was a huge help.

Friends can not believe that he is potty trained so early. I laugh and tell them about the wonderful book that I purchased.

THANK YOU

Rebekah Martin (Green, Ohio)

Hey!

I just wanted to let you know that this past Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, my son (who just turned 3 on May 5th) and I committed ourselves to potty training success. No one at work or church thought that it could be done in 3 days, but we proved them wrong.

He had 3 accidents on Friday. During the 2nd accident, he was able to stop mid-stream & finish in the potty. He’s pooped in the potty too! We’ve had no accidents during nap or during the night. He seems to have just been waiting on someone to tell him that it was time to do this. I waited so long because of all of the things we had going on this year - new baby, new house, started preschool, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc . . . I was scared with all of these big changes in his life, that he’d just regress.

On Sunday, we had a ceremony & gave him a Certificate of acheivement with his name on it as well as a spider man costume that he loves to wear.

I’m so glad we’ve done this & I’ve told all of my friends where they can find your book online. My daughter will be 1 in June. Having 2 in diapers was costing us a fortune (as I’m sure you know having so many kids yourself). Thanks for the help! I can’t wait to use this on my daughter once she’s old enough.

Thanks again!

Richenda